- You print new business cards just for the reunion so that other attendees will notice that you have a fancy job title.
- You spent your rent money to buy a smoking hot dress to attract the attention of your old boyfriend, crush – or the whole football team.
- You spent your mortgage payment on a new watch or other bling to demonstrate how much “disposable” income you have to throw away on trinkets.
- You didn’t invite your spouse along because you didn’t want anyone to get the idea that you weren’t available.
It’s normal to want to make a good impression but when that desire becomes so important that you lose your perspective and damage your finances or your family, you need to get a grip and return to reality.
Reunions are tinderboxes for your emotions – It’s where a bunch of people who you shared aa significant experience with are gathered together all in one place. So you have strong ties to these people. They also represent “where” you came from so that also evokes strong feelings. On top of that, time has softened your memories so they appear much better than the people you’re faced with today.
I went to my recent reunion to show people that I wasn’t dead. I had a stroke 3 years ago and if I didn’t show up at the reunion, the rumor mill would’ve leaped to the conclusion that I was dead or dying. I get enough pity because of the stroke, I don’t need people consoling my family after my supposed tragic end.
I don’t know if going to a reunion to show you’re not dead is a good reason or bad. But it did get my butt in gear and got me to the reunion. And once there, I had a good time, heard some interesting personal stories, saw some people who face much more difficult physical challenges than what I have to put up, honored some worthy teachers, reconnected with old friends and proved to myself that I can handle these sorts of social events (barely.)