When I was younger, I used to scuff at people who waxed on about how psychotherapy and their shrink have turned their life around. But now that I’m trying to put myself back together after a stroke, I have come to appreciate how a shrink can help us fix very painful stuff both inside our heads and outside ourselves, with people in our lives and stuff that happens.
I’ve noticed before that I often drag myself home from my sessions with my shrink Ninette, so drained that I don’t have even the energy to rise from my recliner. But during today’s session I actually noticed when I ran into difficulty and how it made me feel. (Not good.) After more than 3 years of rehab, I shouldn’t be surprised at how much energy our brain uses when it has to work hard, whether it’s cognitive rehab or emotional rehab.
Today’s topic was a recurrent theme, communication difficulties with my wife. While I was focusing on how my wife had misguided me about she had agreed to, Ninette was noticing what Kathy had been trying to accomplish, why she went about it that way and what I could try doing so that Kathy would be more likely to communicate forthrightly. When I kicked back into the present, Ninette identified reasons why I might have acted emotionally during the conversation with Kathy. And that pushed me into the minefield that’s my emotional self right now.
So, you can scuff at me now, but I have to say that Ninette has been instrumental in helping put myself back together even better than before. And while we’ve been working on me, we’ve also worked quite a bit on my relationships, especially with those close to me. Maybe with Ninette’s help, I’ll be able to heal the damaged relationships with my wife and middle daughter.